We often talk about letting go. Letting go of anger, resentments, doubts, and memories.Today, my focus is on people. Over the countless self-improvement articles I read over the internet, I swear most of it had to do with letting go.
If you've read my #dailyMOJO 365 Number 32, you know I wanted to let go of someone (via social media) but our deep connection and bond were too strong and I'm glad we're continuing this friendship and brotherhood.
Equally as important to letting go is to cherish the people in our lives.
Yes, it's easy to get frustrated when they go MIA for a while, or when they're "too busy" for you, but are you going to let such incident from continuing a beautiful journey and creating more memories in the future?
As we let go... are we really letting go of the RIGHT people?
I believe here are four reasons why we should learn and relearn to cherish those who love us BEFORE we start to let go.
1. Practice compassion
Some of move in letting go of someone has always been an ego move.
"Why should I keep someone who does not care about me," I'd tell myself. An ego move, don't you think?
Maybe you'll get frustrated, but do a little bit of self-reflection before coming to any conclusion. Tame the ego and think objectively. Are you letting go of someone because it's the right thing to do or is it because of your ego?
2. Remember that no one is perfect
Nobody is perfect. Not you. Not your friends. Not your partner. Not your colleagues. Not even the strangers on the streets.
My point here is to understand a person in totality. No one is perfect and no one is immune from making mistakes.
3. Your expectations vs. Reality
Some of the decisions we make are often based on our expectations.
Some of our decision in letting go of something might have to do with the fact that this person didn't fulfill our expectations.
Let's be real here. Our expectations may represent our reality but it certainly does not represent reality in totality. Different people have different expectations.
You might have a set of expectations, your loved ones do too. It may collide and it may clash, but nevertheless always take a step back and view things from a different perspective.
4. The world needs more love
I understand the importance of letting go but are we letting go of the RIGHT people?
I often tell myself as I do some self-reflection, "If I keep letting go of people than what/who am I holding on too?
The world needs more love, understanding and compassion.
Letting go is not an easy talk and to cherish someone is just as difficult.
You know yourself best, choose wisely.
Your feedback is my #dailyMOJO too! Let's continue the conversation in the comment box: How do you cherish someone?
Based on my time, I do believe that sacrificing time, planning, and simply making the effort to catch up/hang out with the people I care about is how I "cherish" them :) Our time is worth more than anything else. :)
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ReplyDeleteI love my hangout time with my friends even though not as often, but that makes it even more precious...... :)))
Exactly! That's why it's only for those who really matter :)
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